Taboo not so taboo ...Think back when we were children. Most of us can recall coming home from school to SOMEbody who would enforce the idea: WORK BEFORE PLAY. Let me and my brother try to hit the streets and that lesson not be completed. We got "blessed out" just for thinking so ignorantly...And Sunday mornings? That morning was chopped full of gospel music and the smell of bacon drifting from the kitchen. Best believe would have swallowed every OUNCE of food prior to going to church ; as both tasks were IMPERATIVE. There was my momma and my daddy. There was also my brother alongside myself. All of us couped up in a 4 room - not 4 bedrooms, but four ROOMS- house living with the bare minimums.
You may question what do I call "minimum"? 2 bedrooms, a kitchen, and a living room...We had to go next door to use the restroom. We heated water on the stove. And rats and roaches were my brother and my first recollection of roommates. My parents were more like components in a boxing match as opposed to a match made in heaven. (At least that's how I see it retrospectively) Nevertheless, they were always at work, striving to keep our house and home together. It wasn't until I got old enough to truly comprehend the signs of heartache and dispair that I appreciated my mom's motion to leave my dad.
Don't misunderstand me. Although I am a firm believer that some women beg for an a** whoopin, I'm not the one to condone the abusive man. With that being said , I can vow that my pops was a pretty raw husband and (at some point became) 50% of a father. That's why I get pissed about the whole " making it work for the sake of the kids" theory.
"Making it work for the sake of the kids" is just a selfish parenting tactic that keeps good sex arouns and a lazy attempt minimal level comfort in tact. despite what our ancestors did and regardless of what our parents do, there is little to no positivity in two battling parties staying aboard just to paint an image for their kids. I'm not saying this as if to pass this ideal off as my own. I am simply putting into perspective why our generation has turned a once "sacred entity" into a
"Eenie meanie miney mo" scheme. Sex, money, and power are all pawns and winnings used interchangeably.
I have friends who quick to fall for the guy who can break the most bread but look dumb in the face when they wind up single and used up again. On the other hand, I've known men to become pussy whipped but are totally unattracted to the actual female. Those are the ones who get slapped to reality when the baby comes into the picture. I won't lie. I've been on both sides of those fences at some point, and I live with the circumstances daily. It's turned me into somewhat of a stereotype, but somewhat typical to our society. Because sadly , what was once TABOO is now the NORM.
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Saturday, January 3, 2015
Sunday, January 1, 2012
A Captain and his Ship
It's 2012. Another year. Another chance to make resolutions to problems that you've probably had for many years now. Many people drag through a year of unfortunate circumstances only to find themselves adding to a long list of complaints. They wait until December 31st of every year to contemplate ways on how to better their situation. What makes the end of the year a better time than the beginning or the middle of the year for that matter? The best time to pursue change is the moment that you realize that you need change!
My brother and his wife came across a documentary, entitled "The Secret", and insisted that my mother and I watch it. The documentary brings together a select group of philosophers, authors, doctors, and other elitists who address the concept of (in so many words) an individual being in control of his or her own fate. Though most of us have heard this before, not many us recognize the intrinsic complexity of this simple theory.
After a little honest thought, we can all admit that everything takes some sort of effort, and everything is the affect of something else. That's the basic concept, but that only taps the surface. Specialists of "The Secret" reiterate the idea that our current state of happiness, the achievability of our goals, and our ultimate state of prosperity is reliant upon our thinking and OUR feelings.
According to the philosopher, Dr. J. Demartini, "When the voice and the vision on the inside become more profound and more clear and loud than the opinions on the outside voice then you’ve mastered your life." I consider this to be one of the most reeling quotes of the film, especially among a generation that seems to be tarnished by the ugly face of peer pressure. With this mentality of mastery, we develop and demonstrate a type of strength against our oftentimes unfortunate circumstances. With this mentality of clarity, we can mitigate the misdirected blame that people tend to place on others in regards to the cause of one's misfortunes. Finally, with this mentality of prosperity, we take create our dreams of happiness and take control of our fears of failure.
*BELIEVE IT* RECEIVE IT* ACHIEVE IT*
These are the three keys to becoming a "liver" versus a dreamer. With access to our many sources granted through technology, education, employment, etc., we have the opportunity to take this concept and make it work for us, ten-fold.
There are many scholars, documentaries, and books that seek to encourage desiring hearts, but they fail to make sense or fail to relate. "The Secret" offers various situations that support this theory and speak in terms to which the "average man" can relate. Therefore, time permitting, I highly recommend this video to open minds and perceiving hearts to greatness.
My brother and his wife came across a documentary, entitled "The Secret", and insisted that my mother and I watch it. The documentary brings together a select group of philosophers, authors, doctors, and other elitists who address the concept of (in so many words) an individual being in control of his or her own fate. Though most of us have heard this before, not many us recognize the intrinsic complexity of this simple theory.
After a little honest thought, we can all admit that everything takes some sort of effort, and everything is the affect of something else. That's the basic concept, but that only taps the surface. Specialists of "The Secret" reiterate the idea that our current state of happiness, the achievability of our goals, and our ultimate state of prosperity is reliant upon our thinking and OUR feelings.
According to the philosopher, Dr. J. Demartini, "When the voice and the vision on the inside become more profound and more clear and loud than the opinions on the outside voice then you’ve mastered your life." I consider this to be one of the most reeling quotes of the film, especially among a generation that seems to be tarnished by the ugly face of peer pressure. With this mentality of mastery, we develop and demonstrate a type of strength against our oftentimes unfortunate circumstances. With this mentality of clarity, we can mitigate the misdirected blame that people tend to place on others in regards to the cause of one's misfortunes. Finally, with this mentality of prosperity, we take create our dreams of happiness and take control of our fears of failure.
*BELIEVE IT* RECEIVE IT* ACHIEVE IT*
These are the three keys to becoming a "liver" versus a dreamer. With access to our many sources granted through technology, education, employment, etc., we have the opportunity to take this concept and make it work for us, ten-fold.
There are many scholars, documentaries, and books that seek to encourage desiring hearts, but they fail to make sense or fail to relate. "The Secret" offers various situations that support this theory and speak in terms to which the "average man" can relate. Therefore, time permitting, I highly recommend this video to open minds and perceiving hearts to greatness.
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